Cultivating and maintaining a relationship is created consciously and intentionally. Relationships take work! Most of us want to be in a loving relationship where the person or people we are with care for us, love us and make sacrifices for us. However, we are not willing to put in the work that such committed relationships demand.
Some wise person once said, "To get, you have to give". I will add by saying, "If you want quality you must be willing to give in-kind, connect with someone who is willing to invest, and refuse to accept any less."
I have been talking to several young people who desire strong and faithful relationships that they are not willing to put much effort into making themselves. Let's not forget that as you have written a list of expectations you want another to have, the other person has their own list of expectations too.
Walk away with this: Start or continue to prepare yourself for what you want. Put forth the work into yourself so that when that "person" comes along, you can identify them by their work ethic because hopefully, they too have been working on themselves and they are ready to be in a committed relationship with you. When you see that potential person, take a step back to study them. Do not rush. Do not lower your standards. Whatever you do, do not take on a project. You want someone who is equally determined to be the best version of themselves for themselves and for you. Prepare yourself to be with someone who has seen you and seen your worth and wants to make a lifetime commitment working alongside you as you make each other better.
No one wants to make a bad investment and you are worth every bit of the best in this world. If you are looking for a committed relationship, start by working on yourself so that when the other person comes along, you can identify them by their work ethics and how much they have poured into themselves.
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